Many of the studies cited suggest that, even in the earliest years, the style of affect expression adopted by children depends greatly on parental standards and habits. Empathic capacity varies in direct proportion with parental ability to welcome, solicit, and accept the affective messages of their young offspring: "Children who are more capable of explaining emotions in conversations with parents are also more sympathetic in response to peers’ emotions" (p. 39). Quite early, children develop personal styles of affect regulation, affective expression, tolerance for the affect of others, and systems for the management of the affect seen in others. All of this fits well with Kelly’s hypothesis (1) that adult intimacy is dependent on a couple’s ability to express affect to each other so that they can mutualize and maximize positive affect as well as mutualize and minimize negative affect. Parental management of affective expression during the first few years of life, therefore, profoundly affects our ability to achieve personal intimacy as adults. Unless some therapeutic process intervenes in the microculture so established, the faces that observe and, one hopes, mirror the cradle shape social interaction at many levels.